The heat is upon us in Raleigh, N.C., which is a wonderful reminder that summer is here!

It is also a gentle reminder to plan your summer vacation. With summer vacation planning, you need to pull out your child custody order or your parenting agreement. Be sure to review it to see what is required for vacations. Often there is a required notice period to give the other parent. Since those notice periods can vary, it’s good to take a look at it now and plan accordingly.

If you find that you have missed the deadline for notice or that you want to plan something that would not follow the agreement you have in place, call the other parent and see if you can agree on the change. If an agreement is reached, just be sure to send an email memorializing your agreement.

If you get a call from the other parent about making a change, remember that parenting is a two-way street. You may need a favor soon . . . not to mention don’t you want your child to have a fun vacation during the summer?

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A friend of mine, Bob Wattral, sent me an article from MSN Money titled,  ”A recession divorce: no one wants the house.” (A link to the article is below) It is a good article discussing the difficulty with handling the house when parties divorce. The house is often an emotionally difficult issue, but these days it is also a financially difficult one. Houses sit on the market for a year or longer. Houses are no longer worth what they were purchased for just a couple of years ago. People loose their jobs and the pay to cover the mortgage is gone.  Attorneys try to do their best to predict what will be financially beneficial to his or her client; however, we cannot predict the future. This article has basic tips on your options when you are divorcing.

To me the more interesting part of the article is the discussion. All I can say is wow. I know these feelings are out there, but I was just shocked that such a mundane article would bring out such strong feelings. I guess that’s my daily reminder that divorce is the most difficult time that most people will ever go through. Our firm’s commitment to minimizing the difficulty of divorce is a commitment that must be renewed every day for the sake of our clients!

http://articles.moneycentral.msn.com/Banking/HomeFinancing/a-recession-divorce-no-one-wants-the-house.aspx?GT1=33006

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So you’ve waited weeks (maybe months) and finally, your attorney tells you that the judge has made a decision. You’re excited; ready to follow the judge’s order. Or maybe you hate it, and don’t want to follow it. You want to appeal immediately Well, hold on . . . the judge giving his or her decision is only part of it.

One attorney is responsible for writing the order; the other attorney has to comment; and the judge has to decide what changes need to be made before signing the final order. That sounds simple, but that process could easily take a month or longer. I once had it take eight (8) months.

Just keep in mind that you want the order to address as many issues and scenarios as possible. Many times it takes some time to consider appeal issues. There are more issues than just typing up the judge’s order that need to be considered. My suggestion is to be patient while your attorney drafts the orders and be involved in that process by considering potential problems in the order.

If you want to appeal the order, keep in mind that in North Carolina the time for filing a notice of appeal does not begin until the order is signed by the judge and file-stamped.

Just keep in mind that just like everything else this too is a process, and one of the most important ones.

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